Follow Up

Back in September, I mentioned that the local paper was doing a story on Wo40.com.  Silly me, I never linked the article on my own website.  Check it out:

Fitness Effort Leads to Website

Purpose: ‘Live your life in abundant health’

W. TERRY SMITH
Editor The Daily Southerner Tue Sep 21, 2010, 10:53 AM EDT

TARBORO — Keith Webb took a look in the mirror on his 39th birthday (“the first day of my last year in my 30s,” he said) and did not like what he saw.

“Oh, man,” he recalled. “I had jowls and a Buddha belly.”

Webb was determined to do something about that. It eventually led to a website (http://weightingon40.com) that includes before and impressive after photos.

“It’s easy to start and then abandon (working out),” he explained. “I wanted to be more accountable. It began as a blog and kind of took off and grew.”

His wife Alice, often his workout partner, jumped in and writes in the 4Women section where she answers questions women might have. A photo of her in a two-piece bathing suit speaks for itself.

What they have created is a website that is informative and inspirational. It includes exercises and recipes with nutritional information. It stresses goal-setting.

“The purpose of this website is to help you live your life in abundant health,” are Webb’s first words on the site.

“Anybody can lose weight. Stop eating,” Webb said. “To be fit, you have to do more.”

Webb spends three nights a week, two hours each at karate practice. He works out 45 minutes to an hour the other nights and walks or runs two to three miles when he can find the time.

He’s a member of the Tarboro Athletic Club.

The couple reports his workouts have made the relationship better with his wife and four children: [Daniel], 14, Hannah, 11, Silas, 9, and Emma, 7.

“When you don’t feel good about yourself, it’s kind of hard to feel good about others,” he said. “I wasn’t happy.”

Webb lifts weights, does cardio work and walks a brisk two to three miles.

Webb’s scales showed he weighted 206 pounds when he began working out. He’s a solid 185-188 pounds today on a muscular 5-foot-10 frame.

“I struggled with extra pounds after each child was born,” Alice said, “but I didn’t use it as an excuse to let myself go.

“I like feeling comfortable in my body.”

She is home-schooling the children.

Each stresses it is important to be supportive and encouraging of the other.

“We want to give a strong example to the children,” she said, “so when they grow up, they won’t have to struggle with their weight.”

Alice said she has received many nice comments from her female friends about her husband’s new look.

Keith and Alice met while attending East Carolina University in 1991. He graduated with a bachelor’s degree in English literature. They came to Tarboro 15 years ago to teach school. He teaches English at Edgecombe Early College High School.

“This is about losing weight,” he said. “It’s taking total control of yourself and being healthy.”

They reply to “every single” e-mail they receive and have about 700 followers on their Facebook account.

Embrace the Opportunity

I got word the other day that my brother-in-law, my younger sister's husband, was rushed to the hospital with what he thought was a heart attack.  When my older sister called, she told me that he was watching football and felt pressure in his chest and numbness in his left arm.  They called emergency services, and he was whisked away to the hospital.

He's 39 years of age.

I'm not writing this to slam my brother in law.  Sure I'd like to see him give up the cigarettes, alcohol, and junk food, but I'm not putting him down.  After all, I'm not always the model of healthy living myself.

I'm writing this because it's important to remember - you don't always know.

You don't know when the last cigarette you smoked will be the last one you ever smoke.  You don't know when the last drink you had will indeed be your last drink ever.  You don't know if the last meal you ate will be the last meal of your life.

You just don't know.

You are in the perfect position now to do what needs to be done to take control of your life.  Nothing has to change.  Nothing has to happen beforehand.  You don't have to wait until Monday.  The time is now.

You must embrace the opportunity to become healthy before it's too late.  While I hope it never happens to anyone reading this message, someone is going to have a stroke today.  Someone is going to have a heart attack today.  Someone is going to go into a diabetic coma and never recover.

Don't let it be you.

Don't wait until something dire happens before you take control.  Why must it be a heart attack or a stroke, or the loss of a loved one to some weight-related condition that jerks you awake and compels you to act?  Embrace the opportunity to be healthy.  Embrace the opportunity to show self love and respect.

Embrace the opportunity.  Then act on it.

You can do it.

Go!

Going Mental

What happens in your mind usually goes off without any help from you.  It's not until we've been made aware of something that we begin to take control of the things that happen in our minds.

Let's look at a couple of detrimental thought processes that will absolutely kill your progress in dropping fat.

Thought Process #1 - Clean Your Plate

Ah, I remember it like it was yesterday.  Mom used to tell me, "There are starving children in Africa, and you're going to leave all of that perfectly good food on your plate.  Clean your plate!"  Effectively shamed into submission and despite feeling full, I begrudgingly ate the remainder of my mashed potatoes and corn so, presumably, the poor starving kids in Africa would live another day.

Further, my father was a pretty tight-fisted kind of guy when it came to money.  Throwing food away, he claimed, was akin to tossing dollar bills in the garbage.  He brought that military mindset into the house - "Take all you want, but eat all you take."  So rather than scrape the last bits of uneaten food from our plates into the garbage, we found ourselves eating in excess when our eyes were bigger than our bellies.

Having this message imparted to us day after day, is it any wonder that my entire family (3 children and both parents) have at one time or another struggled with being overweight?

"Clean your plate" is a TERRIBLE message.  Basically it's saying, "Ignore your body's cues and eat beyond necessity." The feelings of guilt that were thrust upon us as children are unfounded - after all, will throwing away 2 ounces of baked potato and the last bit of chicken REALLY cost an African child his life?  Eating every morsel of food from your plate isn't honorable or moral.  It's counter-productive to your weight and fitness goals.

If you haven't quite figured out portion control, then just paying attention to your body can save you a LOT of unnecessary calories.  It works like this: If you can feel your belly bulging - even slightly - then you're done eating.  It doesn't matter if there's still half a chicken breast and a few green beans on the plate.  Feeling full means you ate too much, so stop before you reach that point.

You don't have to clean your plate.  Eat until you are satiated, and not a crumb more.

Thought Process #2 - Get Your Money's Worth

I do enjoy the opportunity to go to the local buffet restaurants.  I don't do buffet very often, but when I do, a measure of self control is in order.

We have a little tradition in our family.  When one of us has a birthday, the celebrant gets to pick a restaurant for lunch or dinner.  As fate would have it, both my younger son and younger daughter chose buffet restuarants for their birthday meals. 

First, my son chose Chinese.  At $7.99 per adult, it's often tempting to say, "I'm gonna make sure they LOSE money on me."  That is a very, very dangerous mentality to have.  My daughter chose Golden Corral.  $8.99 per adult for dinner.  That represents an even bigger challenge.  It's as if the pricing is challenging our ego by saying, "Ha!  You'll NEVER eat $9 worth of food," to which the more determined mind says, "Oh, yeah?  Just watch me."

And the self-abuse begins.

Businesses like this are going to make money off of you.  Unless you stay for hours and eat every piece of shrimp in the building, it's highly unlikely that you'll be able to out-eat the bulk-rate pricing restaurants get for their food.  The only rewards you'll receive if you do manage to out-eat the menu price are a stomachache and more girth.

There's no prize for beating the cost of your food at a buffet restaurant.  Years ago, I used to think it was funny when I said, "They're not going to make money off of me!"  Now I realize what I was really saying: "This restaurant is out of my price league, so I'm going to eat until I'm sick to make sure I get every penny's worth."

If you find yourself having this thought upon entering a buffet restaurant - the thought that you're going to out-eat the menu price - then do yourself a favor.  Save the money and eat a meal at home (all the while remembering to avoid Thought Process #1).

Hopefully being aware of these mental processes will help you take control of your eating behaviors.  Be well!

Coolness

Just found out today that the editor of our local newspaper wants to do a story on Wo40.com.  How about that!?

In my brief phone conversation with him, the editor mentioned that the site is well done without being overly self-serving.  It's something that I've tried to maintain in my writing here - to inspire and encourage both through words and example without trying to be self-aggrandizing.  This site, as I've mentioned before, isn't really about me.  It's about every reader out there who has ever looked at him or herself in the mirror and thought, "I need a change for the better."

Thank you Betty, the friend who referred us to the newspaper.  Thank you, Terry, for taking up the story and getting the message out there.  Hopefully together we can help Tarboro and people everywhere take control of their lives through fitness.

Be well!

I'm not gonna lie...

It's been a rough and tumble sort of summer.  Between travel, and fixing the house, and a dozen other things, it's been kinda hard to just sit and gather my thoughts for a lucid blog post.  In all of that madness, we've lost track of our training schedule to where we dropped to training only 3 times a week instead of 6.  Not a total failure in that regard, but it is a slide in the wrong direction on the fitness scale.

With the summer coming to an end, we can get back on a regular schedule.  We're dropping our current gym membership and going to another locally owned gym with 24-hour operation.  Part of our problem now is that our gym has flaky hours that don't coincide with our availability.  We're also going to be doing the P90X program at home, though Alice and I won't be able to train together due to time conflicts.  The P90X workouts are as long as 90 minutes, and doing them at 4:00 after work and then running to a karate class at 6:00 just won't work for us.

I've realized the necessity of having a schedule worked out in advance.  When left to my own devices, I'll end up putting off things like working out until late in the day when it's a lot more tempting to just say, "forget it," and move on with other stuff.  A consistent yet flexible plan will limit the potential for missing workouts due to time constraints.  Saying, "I'm going to train from 4:00 -5:00," is a lot better than saying, "I'll train later this afternoon."

We look forward to getting fully back into the swing of things.

Be well!